Other Related Topics of Interest

Other Related Topics of Interest (Alphabetically Arranged) and Their URLs

(Anger Management) http://controlling-anger.blogspot.com/
(Children’s Behavior Problems) http://child-behavior-problems.blogspot.com/
(Cholesterol Control) http://controlling-cholesterol.blogspot.com/
(Counseling: Psychological) http://counselingfamily.blogspot.com/
(Counseling: Psychological) http://counseling-family.blogspot.com/
(Cross Cultural Etiquette) http://cross-cultural-etiquette.blogspot.com/
(Emotions) http://emotion-feeling.blogspot.com/
(Executive Etiquette and Manners) http://executive-manners.blogspot.com/
(Exercises) http://exercises-plan.blogspot.com/
(Family Counseling) http://family-harmony.blogspot.com/
(Health: Homeopathy) http://homeopathy-medicines.blogspot.com/
(LifeManagement: Competencies) http://knol.google.com/k/shyam-bhatawdekar/competency-matrix/6txz9nck6g3/4
(Life Management: Effectiveness Management: HSoftware) http://knol.google.com/k/shyam-bhatawdekar/management-in-life-profession-family/6txz9nck6g3/3
(Life management: I Am Liberated) http://knol.google.com/k/shyam-bhatawdekar/i-am-liberated/6txz9nck6g3/6#view
(Marriage Counseling) http://marriage-counsel.blogspot.com/
(Ownership on Job) http://job-ownership.blogspot.com/
(Parental Responsibilities) http://parental-responsibilities.blogspot.com/
(Personality) http://human-personality.blogspot.com/
(Qualities of Spouse) http://spouse-qualities.blogspot.com/
(Quit Smoking) http://quit-smoking-plan.blogspot.com/
(Self Development) http://managing-self.blogspot.com/
(Self-confidence) http://self-confidence-improvement.blogspot.com/
(Stress Management) http://managing-stress-strain.blogspot.com/
(Stress Management) http://management-of-stress.blogspot.com/
(Telephone Etiquette) http://telephone-etiquette.blogspot.com/
(Walking) http://walking-plan.blogspot.com/
(Winners and Losers) http://winners-losers.blogspot.com/

Celebrate Uniqueness But Do Change for Better

Husband-Wife Relationship: Don't Expect Your Partner to be Your Carbon Copy

It is a myth that the marital discords, at times, also occur due to the differences in the personalities, attitudes likings/disliking, habits and behaviors of husband and wife. That may be the triggers but the real root cause of the dissonance or conflicts is that one of them wants the other to change into the carbon copy of the self. This extraordinary expectation can be very heavy on the other person particularly when this demand or expectation is expressed in a forceful or condescending manner. One must understand that it is very difficult to change one’s personality, attitudes likings/disliking, habits and behaviors not only in a short period but also over long period. If the wife likes watching romantic movies or reading romantic novels and husband likes to watch action movies and action novels, it is not necessary for them to expect the other to do the same. As understanding husband and wife, they may start taking interest in each other’s likings over a period of time- that’s the best thing to happen and ideally should happen. Or it may happen that one is a very tidy person and other compromises tidiness for whatsoever reasons, one must learn to let go each other. The tidy person should compromise with other person’s untidiness and untidy person should try to become tidier gradually and also, in the process, both should help each other in making the home a tidier place. Yet, the two are unique individuals and forcing each other to become “ditto” is not the answer. The best thing will be to enjoy and celebrate the uniqueness of each other while some good changes may be taking place in both.

Counseling on Drinking

Drinking Is Nothing Great

• Taking alcoholic beverage or hard drinks or liquor is not a necessity.
• Drinking is not compulsory. No one can force you to drink.
• It is not a social etiquette that you must drink in private or business parties. If you do not drink, it does not mean that you are socially unfit. A non-drinker is absolutely OK in any party.
• In parties when offered a drink and you do not wish to take the drinks, simply say,"No, thanks". You do not have to give reasons or be apologetic about it.
• Do not fall prey to peer pressures and take to drinks.
• It is definitely not an "in" thing to drink. So, do not drink just to keep up with Joneses.
• Do not be sure that you have control over the drinks and so, it is OK to be a social drinker.
• Do not be under impression that your social drinking will not turn you into a habitual drinker and finally, into an alcohol addict (drunkard).
• Addiction to alcohol starts with social drinking.
• Large number of people who turned into alcohol addicts have ruined their and their families horribly.
• Habitual drinking may destroy relationships and drain one out financially.
• Taking alcohol beyond a limit and regularly will endanger any one's health. It can badly damage the liver.
• One makes a mockery of himself in parties and gatherings after taking drinks which he can not hold.
• Once drunk, a person may blurt out what he should not, It may harm him and the person or organization about whom he did the loose talks under the influence of hard drinks.
• No one should ever drink up to a point where he loses his sanity. Alcoholic drinks are notorious to rob one off one's sanity and civil behavior.
• As soon as a person who does take drinks occasionally starts the craving for drinks, it is the signal that he should stop it for ever then onwards. Else, the habit may go beyond control.
• The worst signal is when a person gets a craving and starts taking drinks even when alone with himself and without any society to accompany him in drinking.
• It is a wrong notion and that too an absurd one that one has to drink if in armed forces or in business circles, for one to be successful. A large number of successful people in armed forces and business have been teetotalers.
• Drowning one's sorrows is not possible by drowning oneself in drinks. It only turns one into a drunkard ultimately.
• Contrary to the general thinking and experience that alcoholic beverages are mood lifters, they are in fact depressants.
• In all there are more disadvantages in taking to drinking than advantages.
• So, it is not so great to drink.

Human Relations

(It will be a good idea to read all my previous posts, you will benefit more).

Human Relations: Most Important Aspects

1. Be courteous to everyone.
2. A pleasant smile accomplishes wonders.
3. Acknowledge all introductions cordially.
4. Extend a hearty handshake, never a flabby one.
5. Memorize the names of everyone you meet.
6. Look people in the eye while conversing.
7. Talk with calm assurance; do not raise your voice.
8. Shun idle gossip; never meddle in personal affairs.
9. Be a good listener; respect others’ viewpoints.
10. Avoid argument; keep control even if provoked.
11. When you are in the wrong, admit it promptly and frankly.
12. Be open minded, tolerant and considerate.
13. Cooperate readily and cheerfully.
14. Be a booster. Praise generously; criticize tactfully.
15. Say “thank you” expressively, not just politely.
16. Be sympathetic but never complain or seek sympathy.
17. Always be punctual. Keep no one waiting.
18. Make your work respected by keeping all promises.
19. Be fair and square, loyal and sincere.
20. Take pride in your work and appearance.
21. Do your best today and everyday.
22. Radiate friendliness, enthusiasm and goodwill.

Relationship: Most Important Aspects

Many Types of Relationships

Starting, maintaining and improving relationship are the most important aspects of life.

There are lots of relationships like husband and wife, boy and girl about to marry, parents and children, between siblings etc.

Here, at this point of time, we are going to consider the relationship

• between husband and wife
• between a boy and a girl deciding to marry

Let us look at the most important factors that are conducive to maintain and strengthen these relationships.

Most Important Aspects in These Relationships

• The husband-wife (already married or having decided to marry) is the most beautiful relationship. Nurture it carefully. Do not permit any one else (who so ever he or she or they may be) to create a crevice (rift) in it
• Mutual respect
• Mutual trust
• Communicate, communicate and communicate with each other on whole lots of things
• Respectful communication (do not confuse it by being submissive). Never ever use foul, un-civil language or four letter words while communicating and addressing each other.
• Maintain equal status relationship. Do not exert one-upmanship (or one-upwomanship) on the other. It's not competition; it's pure companionship all the way
• Mutual consideration and caring: demonstrate by communicating and in actions
• Support and care for each other in trying (difficult) times (sickness, loss of job or any other such happenings) more particularly
• Genuineness
• Finding qualities in each other and not faults (and not keep correcting the faults in the other) and frequently, demonstratively, appreciating or admiring those qualities
• Love and affection: also, demonstrate frequently by hugging, kissing and holding each others' hands for no reason, every now and then
• Friendship and so, open friendly communication on whole lot of matters under the sun
• Giving each other some private space
• Don't keep nagging the other; it can get on other's nerves
• Mutually satisfying physical relationship: this is very very important. It requires full participation from both the partners. It needs to be learnt and practiced and then needs to be re-invented (This is strictly applicable only to already married couples. It is strictly "No" for yet to marry couples)

Counseling: Family, Marriage, Children

In this space, our expert counselors will address the various day-to-day family, marriage and children related problems we face on and off. You will find good solutions to the issues that are bothering you.

The panel of counselors will be headed by Dr Kalpana Bhatawdekar. Given below is her brief introduction:PhD in Management, Master of Management Science, M S Course in Counseling & Psychotherapy and Bachelor of science. PhD thesis: Study of the impact of Japanese management systems on motivation and productivity in the organizations. Founder Director: Productivity Consultants, management consultancy organization. Conducted large number of seminars and consulted on TA, work ethic building, TQM, quality circles, kaizen, best practices, process management, quality improvement programs, creativity, leadership, team building, appraisal systems, new trends for corporate sector, educational institutes, professional and social organizations for over 25 years. Professor teaching organizational behavior, HRD, personnel management, quality systems and sales management to MBA students of reputed b-schools of Pune University. Published papers in international seminars. Ex-member of governing council of Quality Circle Forum of India, Baroda chapter. Associated with activities of University Women’s Association, an international body dedicated to cause of women’s overall progress. Keen interest in homeopathy, traveling, cooking, reading, movies, painting, gardening and dress designing. Widely traveled person.